tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4987167067075124014.post4074301350913914967..comments2023-12-08T05:17:21.174-05:00Comments on Advocating Ethics: The Growing Chasm Between Domestic Violence Agencies and Domestic Violence SurvivorsInnerlitehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15585354985968028283noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4987167067075124014.post-79465576390521020422009-07-17T10:59:45.389-04:002009-07-17T10:59:45.389-04:00Caroline,
You make perfect sense, and your commen...Caroline,<br /><br />You make perfect sense, and your comments are brilliant and progressive. I too take issue with this<br /> "Most of these followers truly do not understand the system and what is required or how it even works."<br /><br />I challenge people that make these statements to further explain to those who "do not understand the system". "The System" is in place, or should be in place, to PRIMARILY help DV victims. That is their purpose, simply. I would like an explanation addressing this issue and I am interested in those who make excuses for systems that aren't working in this country.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4987167067075124014.post-22880352649368584512009-07-17T00:28:43.367-04:002009-07-17T00:28:43.367-04:00Thank you for publicizing my blog.
I don't wr...Thank you for publicizing my blog.<br /><br />I don't write anonymously. My name, credentials, vision, and purpose are clearly stated on my web site.<br /><br />I'm going to take issue with the suggestion that those of us calling for change need to educate ourselves. And, I'm going to suggest you read the investigative journalism piece in the August issue of O Magazine (page 154).<br /><br />The only donations I request on my site are for established agencies that have a proven track record of effectiveness.<br /><br />I do what I do 24/7 because people I care deeply about are dead. They are dead because people being PAID to protect them didn't.<br /><br />Positive change toward violence prevention happens because brilliant people like me contribute our talents and resources to bring it about.<br /><br />I believe we need to hear the voices of everyone. I believe we need to work together. If we don't, we'll miss something important.<br /><br />Funding for non-profits is increasingly results-oriented. Effective agencies will find more funds flowing their way while ineffective agencies will find their doors are no longer open.Carolinehttp://annecarolinedrake.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4987167067075124014.post-48137837912915679872009-07-17T00:01:41.737-04:002009-07-17T00:01:41.737-04:00Thank you for publicizing my blog.
Positive chang...Thank you for publicizing my blog.<br /><br />Positive change toward violence prevention has mainly been achieved by brilliant people who have experienced domestic violence and who have decided they're going to make a difference for those walking in their shoes.<br /><br />My name and credentials are on my web site along with a clear statement of purpose and vision.<br /><br />In the five months that my site has been live, I have been blown away by the talent that has surfaced. . .people are floating solutions and exchanging ideas. . .some are in a place where it is safe for them to reveal their identities. . .some are not.<br /><br />Yes, some people are still at a point where being articulate is not possible. But, I think we still need to hear them. We cannot be defensive.<br /><br />I believe that the money to fund change is out there. Philanthropy has become results oriented. In these rugged economic times, all non-profits are going to have to prove their effectiveness before the donations will flow in.<br /><br />I write my blog because the status quo doesn't work. It hasn't worked for a long time. We all know it is time for change. So, I hope we'll be able to work together for the most optimal solutions. <br /><br />To that end, I believe we need to hear everyone's voices or our solutions will not be the best. Our resources are scarce. We must leverage them wisely.<br /><br />CarolineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4987167067075124014.post-63955848684440445812009-07-14T23:02:43.195-04:002009-07-14T23:02:43.195-04:00what band wagon is she referring to?what band wagon is she referring to?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4987167067075124014.post-33674970980293154262009-07-14T20:39:53.835-04:002009-07-14T20:39:53.835-04:00Thank you sooooooo much! Finally the silence is b...Thank you sooooooo much! Finally the silence is broken with good, sound insight, advice and direction is given. <br /><br />I held the position of a Board Member and the "hands-on" Treasurer of our county DV agency and I've kept this controversial issue to myself, only sharing with immediate friends.<br /><br />Thank you for stepping up to the plate and hoping that others will become educated about a subject prior to jumping on the band wagon. Most of these followers truly do not understand the system and what is required or how it even works.<br /><br />Again, thank you. If there is ever a time that you would like to chat please feel free to contact me, anny@annyjacoby.com.<br /><br />Take care and STAY SAFE!Anny Jacobyhttp://www.annyjacoby.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4987167067075124014.post-37298779027185310952009-07-14T20:06:44.139-04:002009-07-14T20:06:44.139-04:00Maria,
Thank you for clarifying. You make the poi...Maria, <br />Thank you for clarifying. You make the point better than I. I am also a local advocate and someone who advocates online. One of the points I was attempting to make was that both approaches are supportive of the ultimate goal- safety for dv victims and their children- and one approach shouldn't cancel another out but build upon it. We must speak out against poor and ineffective treatment as it occurs without professing a blanket indictment of all agencies.<br />Since I have been publishing on the 'net I have had a victim angry that she couldn't get her rent paid by her local program She was from another state and knew nothing about me She launched a campaign against me, under the impression that I am part of some evil dv shelter network and we kill women "faster than their batterers do" (I don't work in a shelter). She pulled quotes from several online advocates, some who I consider (online) colleagues, to back this up. That doesn't bother me but the divisiveness it implies does, I'm afraid it damages those who are doing good work, too.<br />Locally, we have a shelter program that is very unprofessional and, at times, dangerous. It is because their umbrella agency doesn't take dv seriously. I have gone to their funding sources and they have been sanctioned a couple of times. Recently our local Judge became so enraged that he has told them if they wish to "play at" legal advocacy then they would have to receive training...guess who is charged with training them?? It is a slow, frustrating process but it is making a difference in the big picture.<br />My intent in the post was to basically outline what reasonable expectations should be given the structure we have to work with and that, hopefully, we are all on the same team, not to diminish each other but enhance each other.<br />Thanks so much for the insight, my wish is that all advocates can continue the conversation and scrutinize ourselves, also.<br />DianeInnerlitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15585354985968028283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4987167067075124014.post-56052347470429092482009-07-14T18:51:58.845-04:002009-07-14T18:51:58.845-04:00"Grassroots implies local involvement doing w..."Grassroots implies local involvement doing what needs to be done - hands on, face-to-face - beneath the surface (root level). It seems to me that the cohesiveness and much of the actual advocacy within this group of dissenters is accomplished through the internet."<br /><br />To speak for the group of women I advocate with, and for myself, we do not only advocate through the internet. We write and speak out through the internet, but our advocacy goes far deeper than that. My area of interest is in advocating for new DV legislation. One of my new bill proposals has already been introduced this summer--an extension on the statute of limitations for cases involving DV, and there are more to come for my state. On a daily basis, not only do I discuss the resources failing victims on my site, but I do get involved with my local Assemblymen/women to try and suggest new DV legislation that women are in desperate need of. I have also met with members of CVB, the police department, and shelters to speak out about the gaps that need to be filled and the overall DV response from agencies, hospitals, and police officers. <br /><br />I consider myself a part of a large group of women that have been noticing the serious flaws in the system and have the courage to speak out against the agencies that claim to help, but are not prepared to. As a group, connected by the internet, we write and voice our experiences on this matter but we are also involved at the local level, trying to bring about change and trying to stand up for the many women who are too afraid too--and there are many. On our own time, we collect money for the very agencies that ignore us, and we collect phones for DV victims and send them to the shelters, we donate clothes to the shelters, and whenever a victim in need needs a good resource, we try to provide them with the best. This is what we all do at the local level, we are not a group that just sits and writes on the web, it goes deeper and our service is free and time consuming. <br /><br />I appreciate the post, although I felt it necessary to clarify the movement we are making against domestic violence in our communities, as well as on the web.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com